Question: How do I tell my fiance he is fat?

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Answer #1:

Ask him if he is happy at the weight he is at. Apparently before he use to make corrections (drastic corrections) but now he is no longer concerned. Ask him what has changed?

Tell him that you are concerned for his health. You want to live to be old and gray with him and your kids, grand kids, blah blah blah.

Answer #2:

He's knows he's fat - that's not a news flash. What I think you're trying to tell him is that you want him to be healthy and live a healthy lifestyle. Be straight with him and go to a dietitian with him or set up sessions with a personal trainer. Tell him you're not interested in being a wife that never gets any sleep or worse yet a widow. You didn't say anything about the wedding plans but I'd put them on hold until he sorts this out.

Answer #3:

He probably knows already.
If you can't deal with it, you'll have to move on.

He will make his own choices. He is an adult. If it isn't important to him, he won't do it.
This is only the first in a long list of things you will not be able to control. Are you okay with that?

Answer #4:

Get him to do more exercise without knowing it. Do you still have sex? Get him to 'work out' for half an hour, and get him to go for walks not just for exercise but for fun. If he absolutely avoids exercise, you're gonna have to be cruel to be kind and tell him that you're asking him to lose the pounds, then when he reaches a milestone reward him with something.
Incentives.

Answer #5:

You cant make someone do something that they do not want to do. But its important that you stress to him how detrimental this can be to his health. Also if he is turning you off tell him that, maybe that will motivate him to get it together.

Answer #6:

You can't do anything - its a fact that if he wants to slim down, he will and that's that. I would be more interested in why he over-eats - is it comfort/boredom/other....address that and you will get to the root of it all.

I understand you don't want to be unkind but if you look at your relationship right now, do you want to be saying this in 5 years time?

I wont be alone in thinking you should postpone the wedding until all of these issues are ironed out.

Answer #7:

Wow he sounds like my ex.
I could not get him to change.
People usually don't change unless they REALLY want it.
It sounds like he doesn't really care about it, which means he will probably always be this way.
Can you live with that?

Answer #8:

you cannot do anything here... all u can do is tell him to his face that he is overweight and its taking a toll on your relationship.. if u cant do that. then there is nothing u can do.





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